Learning should ultimately be generative, but before we can offer our own thoughts, we must become receptors of the information around us. Unlike our eyes and mouth, our eyes are sensory organs that we cannot close with the simple flexing of a muscle. Yet even though we are always hearing, we are not always listening. Listening therefore not only opens us up to information, but it is the foundation of any relationship, whether with other people or with nature.
Everyone's favorite neighbor, Mr. Rogers, preaches the importance of listening:
"Listening is a very active awareness of the coming together of at least two lives. Listening, as far as I'm concerned, is certainly a prerequisite of love. One of the most essential ways of saying 'I love you' is being a receptive listener."
Elsewhere, he says that the greatest gift we can give another is our active listening. When we give this gift, we receive the gift of knowledge and relationship in turn. The more we give, the more we receive.
The giving of the Torah is called Matan Torah, and the rabbis connect the word Matan ("to giving") with Matanah ("a gift"). The Torah is a gift that we have been given to cherish, but we need to give the gift of active listening in order to receive the Torah. The more we give, the more we receive.
Reflection:
What is hardest for you about listening?
When you take the time to listen, what do you learn about yourself? About others?
What different types of things can you listen to?
Lived practice:
Today is about active listening. In all your interactions, be intentional and attentive about how you listen. Put all distractions (phones, etc) away. Make eye contact. Give the other person your undivided attention. Give others the gift of your ears.
