Day 20: מִעוּט דֶּרֶךְ אֶרֶץ / Minimizing sexual activity
One brief post couldn't possibly encapsulate the complexities and sensitivities of the Jewish sexual ethic. In our context, it comes as the final item in a sub-series on restraint and balance. Perhaps sexuality should not be framed as a virtue or a vice, but as a facet of life with immense potential to elevate and sanctify our lives, but also to distract and damage us and others.
For the ancient rabbis, their concern with sexuality was that it disrupted and distracted from their focus on Torah study. To me, this misses the point of Torah study. According to the rabbis themselves, we spend time learning Torah so that we can show up in this world ready to act with compassion and righteousness. Sex is and should be a part of life, and Judaism fully condones this fact. Our task is to bridge the world of Torah learning with our conduct in all relationships, but especially in those most intimate.
There is really no margin for error here because of the delicate balance between sanctity and damage described above. Therefore, minimizing sexual activity is a bold warning to take great care and never for a moment lose sight of the great responsibility we must bring to any such encounter.
Reflection:
What does this post evoke for you?
Does this characterization of a Jewish sexual ethic resonate with you?
How do you think sexuality should be taught and discussed in Jewish settings?
Lived practice:
We are in strange times of enforced physical distance. Think about what forms of physical touch are no longer possible. Do those various types of contact bring people closer together, or do they introduce discomfort or distraction? In what ways has the absence of touch felt like a burden or a relief?
